Just wanted to let everyone know that things are still going well for me. W and I are 6 months past the day I told her that I knew about OM and the day she decided she wanted to work on things. There have been bumps in the road to be sure, but the good days well outweigh the bad. We have the tools we need now to get past those ugly patches because of my DBing and combined MC and IC.
I'm in a much better place now because i've learned and seen my co-dependent tendencies and I know I can't get sucked into that if I truly want to be happy. I also can't run away from conflict and have learned that some of it is actually healthy. I'm seeing with both eyes open and am truly living and not just merely existing.
W has put a lot of work into getting herself to a better place. She's done lot of reflecting and has really started to focus on some issues that she's had. She is much happier now than ever before.
Most importantly, we are making time for each other. It doesn't have to be fancy, we just spend time together. It's nice.
Follow the system, follow the rules and regardless of the result of your R, you will be a happier healthier person, I promise!
I know now that no matter what happens, I can handle it! I came out the other side a stronger person and that's because of this program!
