Found out 12 Hours ago. What now?

[LiM]

I agree with Drew.
You've got to realize that right now, she's not your friend and she's not even really your wife anymore. She's someone completely different that has disrespected you in the worst way possible. Why would you even consider giving her the time of day unless she PROVES that she has changed her ways? And I can guarantee you that right now, she hasn't. She's checking into to see that you are still available as her fall back and that's not what you want. If/when she is remorseful, you will know it beyond the shadow of a doubt. Until then, detach and work on YOU.