You're right, she won't miss me if she's not given the opportunity to miss me.
I have been been a real manly bad @ss though (just kidding). For some reason, my wife doesn't want me to go to her apartment complex. I know where she's living but she doesn't want me to go over there. Really weird, right? (There's no OM living there.) My youngest son mentioned to me last night that my wife had said that maybe we could start meeting someplace in between my house and her apartment to do the kiddie exchange. I told him (loud enough that she could hear) that since she doesn't want me at the apartment complex, she can drive to my house every time there's an exchange.
I'm doing a lot of work on the yard and house and I expect it to be spiffy in a few weeks. So, I'm happy for her to see what she's missing.
I wouldn't press wanting to go to her place (not that you are). She doesn't want you there, don't go. As far as meeting halfway, I might agree sometimes, but not everytime. Keep yourself busy, so when its time for the exchange, you are busy with something and need her to just drop them off.
