The thing I'm scared about is, one of the major points of contentions in our M was that I was emotionally distant and that I didn't SHOW her I loved/cared for her. If she moved out and I go pitch dark, aside from when D is present (no phone calls, no texts, no emails, nothing) wouldn't that just validate her feelings? That's the last thing I want to do.
That was a problem for us as well, and its true, I was distant. So going dark is scaring the living --- out of me! But I have made it -very- clear to her that I love her and am ready and willing to fix this. And that it can happen on her time. She knows I love her and wants to stay married. But I think there's some healing that needs to be done seperate from eachother, because she is not without her faults as well.
As long as she knows where you stand, she won't forget that. Don't constantly remind her or bring it up after its known where you want this to go.
