Thanks for checking in Biz and Hub! I have been ok the past few days, trying different things, seeing what works. For Mother's day, I gave her a kiss on the forehead and she thanked me. This morning I asked her about her sister and it evolved into an R talk. She was talking about other couples who she never thought would make it and somehow have not only made it, but they are thriving (including her ex-husband). I wanted to tell her that EVERY couple goes through tough times and the fact that they are doing so well now is because they chose to work through difficult things together. But I just listened, didn't validate very well and got defensive when she was telling me that I am holding on to the MR, she always says that. So I told her that I'm not holding on, that I see things for what they are and accept reality. She said that it's easier for me because this would be the first time I'm turning my back on a marriage and it's the second time for her after her first divorce. I clarified that I wasn't turning my back on the MR and she said, "I know, I did a year ago"...ouch! I took deep breaths and didn't get too angry. I ended the conversation when she said "You want to get things back and I don't" and I told her that's not what I want, then she said " You want to start all over..." so I told her, when she is done talking for me, then we can talk and I walked away. Holy hormones Batman! She still doesn't respect me!
