Hi Focus, I wouldn't text her. However, if you want things to change perhaps you could do one of two things..

Just gently change the subject if she brings him up and hope she gets the message

Gently let her know that you really appreciate her good intentions and that you're trying to move on from talking about H etc. And you hope she'll understand - whilst she's been a great help and support you're really trying to move forward now.

Something along those lines anyway. But I think there is plenty of scope for offence to be taken here. However, I think if she can see your expression and hear your tone it's more likely she will understand.

Hope this helps smile

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