What should I be doing? (2)

[sandi2]

First of all, don't you dare blame your actions on medication. Put your big boy britches on and go on from this point.

We discussed everything.. I asked her why she nvr talked to me, she said I wanted space, I told her I wanted an apology.

If you have to ask for an apology, just how genuine do think it would be. And as you saw for yourself, she never gave you one. Instead, she turned it around and blamed everything on you.

She said that she has told me she really fckd up, and that she can't believe she did it, but that she was really hurt by me. She still said I really fckd up to, and still considers my fck up as bad as hers..

See what I mean? She is saying what you did was a bad as her affair........which is EXACTLY how WW's feel.

We talked about the negative effect my actions had on son and one thing she won't do is deal with her son being hurt like his biological father did to him. She said she considers my S to be mine, and would never try and keep me out of his life.

Oh cr@p! Stop letting her play that game. It did not do anything to her son b/c you weren't talking to her for one evening. It was her feelings it affected, not your son! She is using one of the WW's favorite card...........the guilt card!!! She is taking a spoon of dust and trying to turn it into a mountain b/c she wants the focus off herself and the affair.......and put the focus onto you and how awful you have been.

She talked about her therapy session and how much it hurt to talk about everything.

And..........there it is. Her pity card. Poor little thing. Didn't you feel bad for her? She meant for you to feel badly.

She answered questions on A, says she has had no communication with OM although she has seen him at station, but no talking

And right there ^^^^^ she lied! You know they have talked on the phone. And if you tell her, she will claim he is pursuing her and she was trying to get him to stop.

Said we need to restart R as new and see where it goes, I said I still need to focus on me... I invited her back into MBR, she said it would be good for S... She says she's been an emotional mess and had to leave work early other day because of it (why she was home 3 hrs early the other day).

And last, but not least, she does the old rug sweeping by saying to just start a new R and put this all behind you. She gets back into the MBR, but tells you she feels no attraction. That's her way of saying.........don't be expecting hot sex anytime soon.

She feels victorious for fooling her H into thinking it is for the sake of her son, and she gets what she wanted. Even makes you think that's why she came home three hrs early the other day. I suppose that's why she tore apart the rooms, too.

So now, morning has rolled around and you are wondering what the fck you did?

Okay, I'll tell ya. You smooooooooth got suckered!!