I've always had a lot of time for my MIL/exMIL. I really like and respect her. And I know she feels the same about me.
She's still offering me very occasional bits of work with the family business. I like working for them, I really like the work, I get on really well with other people on the job, and I could really, really do with the money it brings in.
Having her be the go between H and I is making things feel a bit fraught between her and me. I can see why she's doing it, and why he wants her to do it. But I would prefer it if he didn't come up in conversations I had with her.
When she came to collect some of his stuff back in January, we spent that half hour without any mention of him at all. It wasn't forced or awkward (except for those first few minutes when she looked really ashamed, but I just acted totally normal round her and she relaxed after that).
So, do I text her and say I would prefer if our future conversations didn't mention him? Say that I like her, respect her and value her friendship, but would feel more comfortable if she didn't mention him?
At this point, I don't see any chance of any reconciliation at al with H. He is very deep in his PA with OW2, and I feel like I (and my life) are now taking a very different course.
Anyway, would totally welcome your thoughts, ideas and any advice you may have.
