Waw, she is in love, need advice/support II

[DDJ]

Very true Sandi. Bear can have her for one day and the WW can her the next day. Otherwise the child becomes a pawn which the W can use to influence the H.

[Bear007]

She basically made statement 'you can't have her 2 weekends in a row'

To make things in perspective, one weekend I am going to graduation party in my hometown and I am bringing child with me, so she can be with grand-parents while I am partying.

Weekend after that is the wedding. So I did chose what was more important (to me) out of 2 social events, and counting that more quality time will be with grand-parents. More fun at the wedding? yes. More important - well, I made a choice.

Anyhow, made new plans for that weekend with some friends I met in a online game, so I am going to one-day bus trip ... it will be fun

[Bear007]

Yesterday she changed her hair. I know that such transformations are almost always some kind of psychological self-confirmations for women, and that behind that decision is a lot of reasons.

Other than that, I am GAL, begun to be more regular on my workouts, it is spring after all

[Natus]

I wouldnt read to much into the hair, i think thats mostly a movie thing. My W got her hair dyed just cause her hair dresser went "oooo wouldnt you like your hair dyed <insert color>.."

[doodler]

I like what Han Solo said to Princess Leia in the latest Star Wars movie, "I see you've changed your hair."

[Bear007]

Hair gives her confidence, and that shows - she had an interview yesterday and now she is in top few candidates and by her words and her impression of recruitment people she could get a job.

The job offers a good salary and is a management position, so I am happy that she found something that will make her happy. Also looking forward to see what her next steps will be.
This weekend also looking forward to my activities without wife.

[Bear007]

Back from weekend, had some quality time with child.

Even before we came back home first there were passive aggressive messages and when we came home first sentence to child was not 'hi' or any normal reaction, but attack: how can you disband your hair when it is so greasy, you should have ponytail.

That reminded me of episode that I had two weeks ago - one mother warned her child about something: 'love, don't do that'

And I had to think really hard to remember when did my wife call me or daughter something other than our names or even harder - lately it is usually name-calling (stupid, peasant and similar). Not sure did I marry a bully, or did she become bully later on.

My mother gave me USB stick with some old photos that I left few years ago.
I found photos of happy days, pictures of me taking a selfie and she was kissing my cheek, pictures of our first summer together, pictures of some country trip when she was 7m pregnant. Definitely took a nostalgic blow.

[Bear007]

Things have been going on i 'new normal' - nothing happens except few fights.

She is sleeping on couch, I am going to work, chores around apartment are done, I am using my weekends to go around on one-day trips. She is annoyed that I am going on this trips, but I am not worried about that, child has also noticed that I am not around anymore, so I am trying to balance that part more.

Also, although regular to the gym, now I started with online coach and also kicked out sugars completely out of my diet - 2 months of no sugars (until vacation, ice creams on beach.. ). This should show, and I will be on my best.

[Bear007]

again nothing new, minor stuff I don't even want to describe.

Life is happening, and workload is never-ending. Gym is going Ok, thinking about using creatin and similar stuff to get more gains on the muscle. Question is do I really need it, and who am I trying to impress?

[SH_]

Hi Bear,

Might I suggest you mix in something fun to break up the mundane? Why not eh?

And I would say you are trying to impress your inner ego. Once you do confidence builds and you will be ready for when opportunity knocks and the person/s you begin to attract will benefit your social circle. Social connections enhance life and each of us here in this community could stand to benefit from that.

Chin up brother. Smile. Have a great day.