Hi Paclove, i exposed my W EA with her boss to her office by screenshot her bosses messages to my W and sending it to her office group chat.
It worked well for me but i live in an asiasn culture where infidelity is a major shame and the OM is married as well. I also live in a small country where everyone knows everyone so it makes it harder for OM to make any moves now.
I did not expose it to family and friends. For me nothing to gain from that to be honest except more hurt and shame.
Your wife's company also apparently has a lax security policy. Giving my husband access to office group chats would get me fired.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16