Here's my thought, and it's not from any experience or anything, but it just kind of came to me ...

so you and your W split, go through two years or so of all of the attendant pain we all experience and then the D is finalized. Now it seems W may want to work on things. Daughter is angry. Why? Because you guys just ripped her world apart and now you're going to get back together? So why has she gone through all this for the past two years? This is from the viewpoint of a teenager ...

To be honest, it's something i've wondered about whether or not my own son would feel like that if my H and I went through with our D and then tried to get back together.

Anyway, does that make any sense (about her anger?)

xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver