Somehow we will all get through this. Everday we are one step closer to relief
Define "relief." My D is just about finalized. W is more wacko than normal. I don't see any chance of our M ever orking out. I don't see any possibility that someone with so much paranoia and victim mentality will ever get her stuff figured out.
Have you read DR? Dbing is to help you so regardless if the M works out or not you will be good. And have relief.
I hope you are taking some time to focus on you with GAL, fixing those things about yourself that will make you a better partner and being the best dad possible. We can not control the WAW actions. Nor should we want to. But we can become someone only a fool would leave. And once we are that person, if the fool leaves, we will attract the right kind of person and be prepared to make it a wonderful second chance.
Hang in there my friend. Time will help perspective. Meanwhile we must try to keep focus on ourself and our children.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Nope, haven't read DR. With the OFP in place I can't even talk to her... So I didn't worry about any anti-D reading material. You think there is a point to read it still?
Just checking in, SadHub. Hoping you had a good day.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Please get the book. It is not simply anti d reading material. The info for folks like you and I is more to help us be whole and better off if a d happens. And I would say that all of the material is to help us be a better spouse in the future whether with our current spouse or another .
As I read your thread and understand your struggles, I say you would stand to benefit by reading and learning the material.
IMHO
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
It is good to hear from you. It is good to hear that you are keeping busy. I know that is good for many of us these days.
Thank you so much for the votive and prayers. It has been a good week for me as the shakiness has subsided and sleep is starting to come. Confidence is building and time with d17 has been upbeat. I am looking forward to seeing d5 and I anticipate many more good developments as the week progresses.
Please be sure to get some rest and take some time to spoil yourself with some fun.
Have a pleasant evening and hugs for you and the kindness you always share. (((Vanilla)))
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Another good day. PMA is sticking more. I am feeling a bit back to myself. Jogging has now happened 2 days in a row, and pretty sure 3 days after tomorrow. And I actually feel tired right now. I am hoping to ride that out to bed without sleep aids. We'll see how it goes. I am feeling patient about her signing the finance agreement so I can move forward on some things. It has to happen soon.....right!?
So for today I am feeling well. Gonna enjoy the moment.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Keep up the jogging. If you ever feel like not going - say to yourself. I ran yesterday, I can run today. It really help.s
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017
