Digit, I know exactly how you feel. My W's move out date is coming up in 14 days. For now we're doing the co-existing as friends thing. Which I hate. She also has talked about how we make better friends than husband/wife...In the back of my mind I'm screaming, WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE EXCEPT THE DANG TITLE!!!
I don't know either if I can remain "friends" with my W if she decides to not make an effort to reconcile. She's talked about it though.
It's just really weird, and I'm having a very hard time understanding her side. I'm trying, and listening. But I am not starting ANY conversation about our R. Problem is, neither is she.