Ding, ding!! Anna and Painter have spoken for all of us who read your latest update, NYGal, much more eloquently than any one of us could here. My initial reaction was, "No, don't be in such a rush to move back in with W." We have seen several reconciliations come apart at the seams because the LBS takes back the WAS far too quickly.
You've been on your own only....what...2 or 3 months? It is not your job to make W feel better or swoop in to soothe those feelings of discomfort. This is why it's so so critical that the WAS work through those emotions and figure out their chit FIRST before reconciliation occurs. I'm worried that you two will be engaging in rug sweeping without the hard work in examining the patterns and working on forging a new path WOTHOUT the expert guidance of a professional. Preferably one who is a solutions-based marital therapist i.e. Gottman.
I'd highly suggest that you find one asap. This isn't the time to approach with a DIY mindset. Otherwise you two will fall apart and you will be really hurt.
