I don't like this at all, either. I'm sorry you gave notice - you need to have your options open. If your housemate hasn't found anyone, can you tell her you need to stay? How about you take charge and make a decision for yourself, so you're not at the mercy of W's whims?

Honestly, I think I would have let a lot more time go by and made some demands in order to move back in. Like putting you on the deed of the house so she can't just kick you out again, or set up a contract for a commonlaw M so you have legal protection. Have you thought about getting your own place at all?

This wasn't a bad dream... It really happened, and none of you will be able to turn the clock back by having you move back in. You can't climb back into the cocoon...

I hate seeing you so dependent on her decision. And I've been there and it was awful. I hope for your sake that you find back together, but I think she needs to do more work on herself, and you could benefit from really feeling independent.

(((NYGal)))

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17