When in doubt, your coach knows your specific situation best, so go with that!
I also noticed differences between the book and advice here when we were separated. I think that is because the book covers everything, and these boards are quite specific; most of the posters are left behind spouses with a wayward in an A.
It seems like the hardest spot to be in and there is one chapter on that. If I recall, you can't work on a M while your spouse is in an A. They have to be willing to end the A, commit to the M, and offer transparency.
So the focus of these boards is on detachment, boundaries, and self improvement, which increases the likelihood they will come back around.
That has been my take on it. -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
