My WAW and I've have been separated for a little over 4 months. She moved to New Orleans for a job and we've had little conversation since. She has no interest in filing nor does she want to work on reconciling at this point. I've been using the DBing strategies and 180, but with little results. I'm well aware of the possibility of an EA or PA at this point, but I'm having a lot of trouble letting go. I actually went down to visit her over Easter and it was extremely emotional -- it came down to she wanted me to work on being happy, independently, and she would do the same. I don't want to file and get a D and don't know how to proceed. Our marriage broke down due to poor communication, financial pressures from her not wanting to get a full time job in LA, where we live, and me dealing with anxiety and depression through the loss of my mother in car accident 4 days after our wedding. I've learned she has been traveling out of the country and is going to be quitting her NOLA job here, soon. I most add that I was prescribed medicinal marijuana for my anxiety during our marriage, which definitely added to her resentment; since, I've greatly cleaned up my act and been living a healthier, fuller life. Still, she doesn't seem interested in any changes I've made post-separation. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you!
