I don't know your sitch, but I do trust what the coaches have to say. They are much more skilled at successful DBing than we all are. If you're not sure what the letter should say, then call your coach again. Seriously. All our situations are unique. Remember, the coaches have successfully steered people through piecing and reconciling.

The people who are back in their marriages/relationships aren't on here giving us advice, they're living their lives.

Call your coach.

11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat