14 days of sheer hell - part 4

[Painter]

Have you read on the Divorce Remedy book and done the work? If you haven't, you can't expect results.

It seems to me that you are reconsidering your entire role in the R and that probably leaves you feeling like you don't know what to do instead of what you used to do.

Maybe you could write down what you feel your role has been in the M, good and bad, and what you would like to continue to do, and what you want to change and to what. What do you think you should ideally do in the role as husband?
(Don't make a list like that for W.)

Maybe going back to the very basics can help you see where you agree and where you disagree, and it would take the focus away from the day to day stuff.