Need some help from the DB community! Crunch Time!

[cbtdad]

Interesting night to say the least. I can never figure these things out
So W waits until I get off till 9pm to cook the dinner mentioned in text above.
It was very good and I made sure I complimented her. She also invites me to her Awards banquet that's in a couple weeks. She actually has two tickets and I told her to take son instead. Her partner is bringing her 6 year old daughter as well.
Anyways after the first time the two of us had dinner just the two of us in who knows how long I actually I had a DB coaching call at 10pm
So I told her I had a work conference call and went for a walk around the neighborhood while I talked to DB coach.
I got a lot of good tidbits from DB coach. She says to just treat W as a good friend right now. Anytime I think about saying something or doing something. Ask myself if I would treat a good friend the same way.
I asked her what happens if W says she wants to work on MR at MC on Wednesday and she said to respond that is encouraging but that I would like to take it slow. She actually said not to move back into MBR right away and to work on being friends right now.
She said I need to let go and realize that I have no control and no expectations.
So she asked me my short term goals. One of them was to trust wife.
So I grabbed W's iPad to erase all previous texts that I had seen so she wouldn't know I snooped in first place and that would be the last time I looked.
Well I went to erase text between her and friend. Same one she told that she was miserable and didn't want to be married to me anymore.
Anyways, there was a pic my wife sent her said, "I changed"
It was my wife in a very revealing shirt showing. Very low cut.
The friend responded with, "he's not here right now"
I'm not reading too much into that. But as I was deleting texts she also wrote, "I'm about to lose my whole life"
I'm so confused as to treat me like she does today and invites me to her award banquet. I'm not surprised, just confused how these things go
I'm the end I am down with snooping. I don't think there is anything EA/PA going on at the moment. That was the reason I snooes in first place.
So time trust the process and trust her. I've got to get rid of my controlling ways and no doubt snooping is controlling