I'm glad that the triggers are fading, Blu. I look forward to that stage.

This is a strange one, but as we were leaving the room after my BAN meeting last week, there was a sign for a Zumba class. The woman at the meeting cringed, and looked at me and said "Zumba is a trigger for me." No explanation, but I could see it really bothered her.

The worst thing is that they can be anywhere, and we never know when we'll come across them. I don't even know what might trigger me. A few weeks ago a sweet older man, maybe 80 years old, held a door for me at a fast food restaurant, and I noticed the wedding ring on his finger. I barely got out to my car before I started crying. I mean, who can prepare for that? A simple kindness as a trigger? In reality, it was the ring and the man's age that were the trigger. It made me realize the likelihood that I may never grow old with my H.


H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16