How to rekindle love?

[Rose888]

This is hard stuff, Rose. Try and remember that even tho H has made his "decision," he is still struggling with his feelings and some confusion. It is a long process to work through all this. I would say, keep focusing on you and your happiness as much as you can. Have patience with yourself and him. You don't need to change for him.

-Blu

Thanks, Blu.

We went to counseling and then went out to dinner and talked some more. He said he's having a hard time wanting to re-engage. He doesn't want to open himself up to be hurt again.

It's clear I need to focus on my mental health and try to be happy no matter what happens with the R.

It'll be two weeks before we see the therapist again because I have a work trip.

She wants us to come prepared to talk about what we each need to be "reasonably happy" in the marriage.

I'm feeling sad and discouraged today, like I had my chance earlier in our marriage and lost it. I feel like I need to hide those feelings from H because they will just lead to more R talk, and that won't help H become more attached.