Today's thought: I think it's crucial to schedule future events that we are excited about. When living in the here and now is very painful, and that pain draws our attention to the past, something to look forward is vital to distract and encourage us and make us look towards the future.

I thought of this because I realize how helpful it has been to me to have plans and a full-ish schedule. It's not about GAL to look busy to the WAS, but mostly about helping ourselves balance all the pain we experience and grieving we do.

This weekend, son and I planned a fantastic vacation for next summer (he has some job perks that makes it possible for us to go to Europe for an extended period) and we invited his stepsister to come visit us later this summer. Both of those exciting events will help keep my brain busy with planning and future thinking, instead of dwelling in the past.

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17