What should I be doing? (2)

[sandi2]

Okay, just needed clarification on what had been said. When she should bring up the subject again, implying she is doing all that you've asked of her, I think you need to tell her that the only way to end an emotional affair is by no contact of any type.

If she doesn't bring up the topic of doing everything you've asked, but she starts a talk about the MR......you could tell her then.

See, she doesn't like the fact you gave her the cold shoulder, and she demanded that you treat her with respect. Maybe she knew she didn't really deserve respect, so she used the son as leverage. And she will not hesitate to make demands and have her fits, all the time she continues disrespecting you. She has already told you that if you asked her to leave the firefighters, she will resent you. Well, news flash: she already resents you. If she was the woman who use to be your W.......she would see the craziness of putting a job, class, or volunteering over her own H and son.

That's just one reason the LBH has to make a stand for what is morally right for him, his M, and his children and not compromise with infidelity.

I read somewhere to treat WW like you would a sister, nice but no explanations needed, is that a fair goal?

If it will help you stay balanced and not swing hot and cold. You went too silent and cold. She pitched a whooper of a fit. Today you are back to talking.