What should I be doing? (2)

[Coconut]

Wonka, you dang near caused me to have a heart attack... This is kind of comical.. So I was reading on the site, saw you replied to get the DR book out of the MBR and into office, so I go grab the book, throw on sandals to bring it to truck, take one step out the door and guess who comes around the corner... unsure if she saw me, I go back in, run to put the book back and figure I'll just hang in MB when I get a O-$hit moment, my iPad is on the coffee table with MBsite open (that would be bad)... So I bolt into the living room, kick my sandals off on the way, grab the iPad and dive onto the couch and start quickly trying to close screens... Probably looked guilty of some WS activities.. Heart was beating mile a minute, have no idea why she was home 2 hrs early.

When she was rattling off all the things she had done that you had ask (regarding ending the A), she failed to mention ending contact with OM.......even if she had to leave her firefighter's group. Have you made that perfectly clear to her?

She gave you her passwords, etc. Does she know you can access her phone activity? I mean, she was trying to sound as if she had ended the A and everything else you had wanted, but not a word was said (from either of you) about her continuing to meet and to talk with OM.

Puppy Dog Tails: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...s&page=1209

Sandi, I originally expressed that I didn't know if I could ever be good with her not cutting all contact, and she said she would resent me if I made her quite.. I got hit with 2x4 for diarrheal of the mouth, and hit again when I proposed my ultimatum, so no, I have not gone back and addressed it specifically, no contact at all or no go. I would like to, because it needs to happen, but not sure when to address, kinda hoping she would get to place that she would offer, but I don't see that happening..

As for the phone records, I don't know if she knows I can check every number, cause the main screen just shows total minutes, and link to view each call is small... Now I don't have concrete proof it's OM (I've nvr called him), but it is the only number that calls last over 5 minutes, they last 30 or so, and range drom 8 am to 1130pm.

And as for not spewing back about S, you said they don't think logically, so what's the point.. I know, and more importantly my son knows, that we have the best relationship ever (and we've always been very close), but as he's growing into a man, he really respects my life lessons (hope I don't have to give him one on D)😓

So today I was a little more cordial, I said hello goodbye and we talked a little about sons schedule. I read somewhere to treat WW like you would a sister, nice but no explanations needed, is that a fair goal?