Blindsided and Lost

[Nate14]

Thanks for the reply mowgli. Starting to get discouraged over hear. Been reading the DB book and lots of good info. I just feel the only thing I got right now is to do the Last Resort Technique. She in no way wants to communicate. The other man is professing his love to her and I assume she has reciprocated at this point. I don't see him so boldly sending flowers to her work stating he loves her without feeling the same way about him. I'm at an impass really. They are in love/infatuation. Acting like teenagers and I'm ready feeling defeated and ready to just abandon ship. Which makes it easy to not bring up R or M at all. Been at it for a week or so and nothing really. It's a quiet house mostly. I don't see how this draws her back. It only seems to give everyone peace. I was thinking of trying to get a dialogue going with her. Even just to say good morning or how was your day. Would that he considered pursuing. Should I wait for her to initiate if it will ever happen? No joke when people said this will take a long time. I feel like I have to sit on the sidelines and watch this budding romance and hope for it to fail. I know I have to GAL and detach in the meantime but is that it. The whole trick is just to wait for this A to flip or OM to possibly hang himself? Is there not something else I could be proactively doing? Just work on myself and focus on my kids hey. I feel like she has made her bed then, I really need to find someone one day that will respect me enough not to treat me this way after 10 years. What the hell is wrong with these women? The mind [censored] and games they play and hurt they lay down. Were they really that neglected and emotional abused by us that this is the only answer? Wow, I'm utterly floored at the level of discontent someone could have in there life to fully blame another person for it and then proceed to take it out on them.