My first post - please be nice.

[collin]

To me the "roommate" thing was unacceptable; I wanted a wife, not a roommate. But, this morning she told me that if I'd done the roommate thing for a couple of months, then I'd have had a chance. I don't know if I should believe that, but I suspect there's truth to it.

Yeah, that's what I told her, it may be a self-serving POV, but I told her I'm not in this for a good friend. I'm going to spend every day for the next 6 months (length of her lease) to get her to come back home. Yes, I know that's setting expectations. But, that's my goal. Do what I've got to do to win my wife back. Because essentially that's what I've got to do. I've done everything to make her fall OUT of love with me. Now, I need to make her fall back IN love with me. She said she's got a lot of emotional baggage to overcome. It's true, she does. I've said/done some stuff I hate myself for. The MC said if I were to step on your toe and hurt you, we can't just move forward without first resolving the fact that I stepped on your toe and with empathy felt the pain that the stepping on the toe caused. Well, I've stepped on toes...