W still at home, how to proceed?

[Ralph88]

The WW tends to want you on board to separate. That way it's a mutual decision and helps ease her guilt. I missed the boat in that one and was kind and left. It you don't want to separate, don't. Don't leave the MBR or the house. Let her make her own decisions. Once my WW was separated, she started saying things like 'if we ever get back together', even though we are still married.