Too little too late?

[CRW]

I think the coaching has been very helpful, especially sorting out some of the information and opinions from the message boards.

For example, in my previous thread, I mentioned a text where in response to me saying I had confused feelings about our direction going forward she responded with something along the lines of there was no hope of reconnecting love between us. Most people here took that as a death blow to our marriage. However, my coach pointed out that I never mentioned love to her, she brought that up on her own, meaning the thought is still in her head.

In general they are great at giving perspective and reminding that there is not a one size fits all solution to everyone's problem.

ie, if your spouse left because they felt emotionally neglected, going dark on them might not be the best response....