I agree that I need to let go of the anger. The hug and nice greeting is not to counteract the anger, it is who I am. I'm that way with all the other important people in my life.
My W made a comment to me several weeks ago that she has never felt that I was that in to her. I've felt that she has been resistant to my shows of affection and they slowly dwindled away. Part of my GAL is being comfortable being who I am. When I greet the important people in my life I am pleasant, usually give them a hug and that fact that I am happy to see them shows.
So my question is essentially, why should it be any different in this situation? I am happy to see my W. I don't want to spend an hour talking to her right now, but I still am happy to see her.
