Originally Posted By: tjcran Each time this has happened there has been tension. Partly because of me - I'm angry - and partly because of her, she is irritable and moody. I don't want it to be like that. What I want to do is give her a nice greeting and a hug. Why? Because that is who I am. I want people to know that I genuinely am glad to see them. Even my W, who has hurt me and our family, is someone that I like seeing, albeit in tiny doses at this point.
Cadet said: I think their is no reason to be ANGRY. That is on YOU. So the only way that you will not be angry is if you hug her and give a nice greeting? Not sure that is a great idea, but not being angry is also a good strategy and I think you should focus on your children and how you portray your image to them. Certainly you are not angry at them, Right?
So you need to detach from all of this. Go visit your children, fake not being angry if you need to. Skip the small talk with your wife and the hug. It is pursuit and not part of this deal.
Oh, and please start a new thread as you are over 100 posts, and we can discuss this there. _________________________ Me-62, D29,S28
