He talks to and smiles at the TP. Where is that side of him when he brooded and stayed in his own world while he was put with kid and me?
Grl, I've talked to my IC about this, how Mr P could be different with someone else. There's no good answer. About 15 years ago, Mr P had an EA by email and phone with a woman who was supposed be be my best friend. The thing that hurt me so much was that he said things to her that I wanted to hear, but never got, tender, loving things. When I asked him why, he had no explanation, and I never got anything close to them the remainder of our years together. Why? I don't know. Does the duck get them? I don't know.
Here's what I do know: I say things to My Nica that I never said to Mr. P., and I get wonderful things in return. Why am I able to do that with My Nica? I don't know that either. Is it that I was reacting to Mr P being closed off, is it that I never really felt them, is it that Mr P and I were a bad combination, is it that I've recently learned to be more open? Point is, my R with My Nica is different, Mr P's R with his duck is different, your X's R with the TP is different. Don't spend any more of your mental energy wondering why X did or didn't do something, what he does or doesn't do with the TP. There's something way better for you out there. Approach any new R all opened up, give someone new the chance to respond to that. Your X didn't, someone else will, and you'll be happier for it.
