I don't generally like R talk, but I think Vapo may be right; maybe it's time for some R talk.
I had R talk with my wife this morning (she's planning on moving out today) and it went really well. Now that we've talked, I know more about my behaviors (good and bad) from her perspective and I think she has a better understanding of some of my issues with her. Maybe the two of you are at a good point in time to have a little calm R conversation.