GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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SadHub: Thanks for being a friend.

It's been an interesting weekend. A few high points and low points.

The mechanic did not get the motorcycle ready, did not get a couple of house projects done.

But, did have a very direct R talk with my WAW/WW and told her I'm emotionally, physically and mentally ready for her to go. I also told her I'm also ready to build a real marriage to her.

But the limbo has to end. If she is going then go, if she is staying she has to make a commitment to me and put our marriage 1st. But, the cake eating time is over.

I told her we won't be friends, once she leaves. It will still be her house (re:ownership) but not her home. She won't come and go as she pleases and be a mom when she wants to. I will be the leader of this family.

I told her that if she wants to be on her own and chase her dreams then go.

She gave me the song and dance, that she does not want to be alone and she worries that if she comes back, I will take over her life and she does not want to say goodbye to her family, but she does not have any feelings for me ... I listened and tried to validate as much as I could.

So, I feel like I got lots of my chest and I've kinda set a clock for her.

So it was a high point for me to lay it out and see what happens.

To answer your question, I did do a little pursing - so I may have a black mark on my report card this weekend for that. But, I should get a star in the GAL - as she now knows that if she goes, everyone here will be fine.