What should I be doing? (2)

[Coconut]

Wonka, other than cordial good mornings or byes, I haven't initiated any talk with WW in what seems like 4 or 5 days. I've posted every verbal and text communication we have had. I see that I wasn't creating boundaries, so I read up on that most of the night (only slept 2 hours).

Ok, so rough morning... I wake S up to get ready for school, then go to MBR to get dressed for the day. WW wakes up 15-20 mins later, and S sees her come out of the guest bedroom and asks why she's sleeping in there, I don't know if she responded to him..

So WW comes in MBR and tells me about S question, I said that it's going to be a tough discussion to have and go into the bathroom.

(I did not lose my cool during any of the following, no tears.. She was very upset, raising voice, teary eyes)

She follows me into the bathroom and starts going into how she's not gonna do this anymore, let me treat her this way, she's moving back into the MBR, and I'm gonna start treating her better because she doesn't want to upset S. I said Really, you want to move back into the MBR while you are having an affair with another man, totally disrespecting me and our marriage, I will not be apart of or remain in an open marriage. She started saying "had an emotional affair, it's over", yadayada yadda.

I walk over and say goodbye to my S, he says bye and I walk out of the house. I close front door and go to lock it, and WW flings it open, I back up and she comes out and closes the door. She says that she is not going to live with this disrespect and that I'm going to either treat her with respect so it doesn't effect our S, or I can leave the house. I advised that I am not leaving our house, and walked away and get in my truck. She then runs over a flings the door open and starts saying that she is not going to let this affect our S. I said your very upset, why don't we talk about this more when you calm down, and she kept saying that she is not gonna live like this, and I said things will change once you end all contact with the other man (probably bad choice of response). She then said I had an emotional affair because you neglected me for years, yadayada. Then she walks back inside.

So that's pretty much all of it, I am hurting because she screams and yells and of course our son hears her, I'm not sure if I should just initiate a conversation with him or wait till he comes to me.

I think it's pretty sad what this A high has done to her... Our S was her whole life the whole time we've been married, but recently she didn't do anything for him on Easter (luckily I did last minute, but she didn't know that), she barely talks to him, on Mothers Day she left him at the house alone at like 6pm, didn't go to dinner with him or even get him dinner. It's sad.. So anyway, I feel like I'm gonna get home to a mess today..