Hi Phoebe, yes I agree it's a yucky feeling when you start looking at and questioning earlier stuff. A year or two before BD my H was due to travel home from work but decided to stay overnight after some work drinks. I was miffed at the time because he wasn't upfront about it. He didn't want to let this guy down and he also didn't want to let me down.

After BD I asked him if this had been a ONS - and he said no. But after all that has happened since, I do wonder you know?

25 years is a long time to be together and I'm sure that much of your life was good or your M would not have lasted so long. It isn't all a lie - but as you say, it's possible that waywardness set in a little earlier than you knew about.

Hope you managed to get a better sleep last night & take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus