What should I be doing? (2)

[Coconut]

I am really so confused... I feel like I'm reading from a different playbook and can't seen to understand why I can't figure out what type of communication I should be having with her..

Wonka, I've been trying to ignore her because your last post to me yesterday was

"top, stop...STOP. Full on stop talking to W! Step away and no one gets hurt. Say and do nothing for 1 week. "

So I have been trying my best from keeping from saying anything... And I thought when I do talk to her I was supposed to validate, and all the while be detaching... I can do painful truth, but I honestly didn't know that was what I should be doing at this point... I was pretty good about detaching today, I was upbeat with my son, being happy and no tears or showing any concern about what she thought.