Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
Thanks! I actually wonder about so much time going by and me getting sick of his nonsense and me moving on.
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
I've always suspected there was another woman. He swears there's not but I just feel it in my gut and I can't ignore it. I know him so well and I know when he's not telling the truth. I want to believe him so bad but something isn't letting me. I just want ONE DAY where I don't think about him every second. I'm so tired. I feel like all of my posts are just me whining but it feels good to just get it out...
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
So Friday night he admitted to having a "thing" with this girl. He said nothing physical, but she was more of a symbol for the life he didn't have and the life he thought he wanted. She's young, goes out all the time, no responsibility. He said he doesn't want that life and wants his life back. I said we have a lot of work to do. Then tonight he texts me angry because his sister (my best friend) came to my Mother's Day. He's upset that she's "on my side". Then he said "it's making me rethink things", meaning the stuff he said about wanting to work things out with me. I'm wondering if he even meant what he said on Friday night about wanting to work things out or if he just said to distract me from getting so angry about the other girl. I just feel like he thinks this is a game. And I don't know what to do now. Do I just pretend that he didn't say anything about wanting to work it out and just see what his next move is??
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
To the WAS it is a game, one they hold all the cards and know all the answers. Some of them are actually confused and struggling, some know exactly what they are doing, and yet some are actually trying to hurt the LBS the entire way. Believe nothing they say, and half of what they do. Take the power away from him, detach, GAL, act as if.... Etc
Ralph88 Me 40s W 30s, D5 D3 , M7 T9 2013 B drop 1, EA found 2016 B drop 2, EA/PA? 2/16 Physical Seperation 2/16 I filed for D 4/16 PA Confirmed
I really like that idea, Ralph88- take the power away from him by detaching, etc. I had never thought about it that way, but you're exactly right.
sr9e2d7, I'm sorry for what you are going through. Ralph88's got it absolutely right. Don't believe a word he says right now, no matter how good it sounds. Look at actions, and even take those with a few grains of salt. All the best.
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
I can't do this. I want to give up. I'm so tired of crying, so tired of wondering where he is, who he's with...
I'm tired of feeling like a second choice. I want to file for divorce just to end all of this waiting
Me: 37 Husband: 35 Married 5 years, together 13 Daughter - 1 Bomb dropped - 12/28/2015 He's moving out (officially) - 4/15/2016 EA confirmed 6/1/16 PA confirmed 8/1/16
