Found out 12 Hours ago. What now?

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I'm sorry you are here. I want you to pay very close attention to what I'm about to tell you. Read it and then read it again.
There is NOTHING you can do to snap her out of this. NOTHING. She has to be willing to come out of the fog on her own. There is nothing your family or her family can do. Essentially, they will only be guilting her out of the A and back into your M. That will NOT work in the long run. You do not want your W back because she was guilted into it. You can't reason with her. No one can. The only way she can come back and make it work is if she is truly remorseful and is willing to do whatever it takes to right her wrongs.
I can guarantee you that they have had sex. Dont fool yourself. He's been kicked out and she's leaving the house too? They are their only support system right now. They will continue to see each other.
Read the book. Then, detach, 180 and GAL. You need to deploy the LRT. You need to go dark. Stop pursuing her. You need to emotionally divorce her. Dump her and begin figuring out how you move on with your life without her. This is all counterintuitive but THIS is how you save your M. Make changes in your life to my YOU a better person. See just how awesome you can be without her. This will do wonderful things for you emotionally. The side effect is that she will also see these things. She will see what she is missing out on. She will see that she is a fool to have done what she has did.
I am now just over 4 months since BD and my WW and I have begun to piece our M back together. But this has happened for me at light speed. Things don't normally happen this quickly. I'm frankly a little concerned that it turned around so quickly.
Believe none of what she says and only half of what she does until proven otherwise.
Read ALL of Sandi's threads on the LBS.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2653323&page=1