Marital History: We have been married for 4 years. No hint of anything deeply wrong. we have had fights in the past about me not respecting her emotions. As recently as December, she was publicly telling people how I am the best husband ever, so supportive, how she could not get through this hellacious year on the job without me.
Their interactions started right before the deaths (They were working on a project together) but she says it did not turn physical until after the second or third death. She doesn't remember exactly when.
I am on the plane now. We saw each other. Cordially discussed our weekends, how the wedding was, how great my friends are. I made her laugh for a second. She touched my leg within first 30 seconds of convo (she basically hasn't touched me in a month). All very odd. She also asked me where I went for weekend even though she knew where I went bc she asked her gf to look at my social media profile for a platform she doesnt have. Apparently she refused to talk to her bestfriend about this the whole weekend even though her friend knows and she knows that her friend knows. Friend reports she was very sad during the wedding ceremony.
Her mom sent us an email about couples counselors. I asked her what she thought of it. She said, what do you think of it. And I said, I think it could be really helpful, seems like it at the least it might make our interactions and discussions less awkward than the present one, but that it kind of is on her if she wants to do it. She said she would think about it (which in my mind is a backtrack to what she had told her mom).
The other side of this is that since last week, she has told me and her mom she is going to come home tonight, pack, and stay with a close gf. Today, I asked her which friend she is staying with tonight and she said she didn't know. I asked her, don't you need to tell them if you are going to show up at their house at 11PM? She said she got a hotel room for the night but is going to go there for the rest of the week. I have serious doubts that she actually got a hotel room and is not just staying with OM, despite promising her family she was not going to stay with him and was going to be only professional towards this guy for the next two months because she doesnt want to risk her job.
2 more hours on flight. then another awkward interaction I am sure as we go get our dog (who she loves but I will make sure she never sees again if we get a divorce), she packs, and goes off to who knows where for the night....
