Oh Phoebe, the amount of loss you have dealt with is just heartbreaking! It feels like the double betrayal when H pulls the rug out from under you when you are still grieving/healing. My H did the exact same thing! I had suffered several losses and hardships and so when this happened within the following year, it just put me over the edge.
I am so, so terribly sorry. I don't know if everything happens for a reason, but I do believe that over time we can find reason for why things happen, and then slowly allow ourselves to enjoy the silver linings after recovery.
I hope you can have a more peaceful and restful night, you certainly deserve it.
-Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela