Adding to the above post, and how my W is similar to the thread linked above...
She was always guarded. She never opened up, rarely shared her feelings. There is no way that I caused her to feel unsafe about sharing. But MIL on the other hand, hiding to cry, keeping everything to herself, and complaining about other people all the time, saying how stupid other people's actions are, etc.... what a wonderful role model! Why would anyone open up to her? I know my wife shared some things with her mom, but I don't think very much.
I know W felt worthless.. She made random comments here and there along those lines. She commented lately that it is sad that she makes 1/4 of what I do.
Some of my previous comments go hand in hand with her being a loner. She would hang out with kids. Even when adults were present she would avoid them. She would completely clam up around my coworker's. One example, I invited W to a meeting. She stood by the door, scared to death to come into a room with about 8 of us in there. I motioned her in, she finally did but took a while. I could see in her eyes she was scared to death. Maybe this is why she wouldn't go shopping without the kids?
Not showing emotions except bouts of anger... Yep, that was her!
Also ironic that it says I will be viewed as the father figure. That was always the case as I mentioned previously. She hated her father, he died, she turned that anger to me?
