What should I be doing? (2)

[Coconut]

Today, will you just take in the information, without jumping into radical action? I stayed near my IPad all day yesterday, hoping to hear what was going on, so we could try to straighten out a few things before matters were made worse.

Thank you for looking out for me Sandy, I apologize to all those I made worry about me. Going for Mother's Day celebration (I uninvited WW a few days ago), I should be back around 3 pm EST. I'm going dark for now, she'll be gone when I get back..

Can you recap exactly what you have told her, if anything, after she told she called the OM and that they would resume to a professional relationship?

I asked her what OM said, she responded OM knows I'm married and understands. has she spoken to OM since, no "it's not like he's sitting at home pining for me". I asked how she could think I'd be ok with her working with OM. I told her I don't know if I could ever be rebuild trust with that, she said I'll resent you if you make me quit.

When is she due back home?

WW got home this morning, I was out for a bike ride and I stopped to buy some clothes. When I walked in I cordially said goodmorning and went to MB. She had put a list of passwords on the bed for me, but I'm putting them in a draw and not looking at them. I've been n Mb since, and will be till I leave.

To clarify, during the talk when you confronted her about the A, you said you expressed concerns about them working together. Was anything else said about the M? Anything said about her moving back into the MBR? Anything else you remember about the talk?

Nothing said about moving back into MB, I said that I want to see if we can save marriage but she needs to be there to. I said I was hurt that she started EA (so she says) after I woke up (ILYBNILWY speech) and started bettering myself, that we could have been happy in months as opposed to what now may take years. That I now know things about love I didn't before, I pointed out I express love with acts of service, and she needs words of acclamation (she teared up when I said this), that I always thought as sexy and beautiful, just didn't understand how important it was to say it. If I can remember more I'll add to this.

You did not give her an ultimatum, right? After you asked her to talk to your cousin/friend, was anything else said about the A or MR?

No ultimatum, When I fly off the handle I express my thoughts here, and I tend to follow guidance given (except back the F off, have a hard time with that one). No, after asking to talk with cousin I said nothing else about marriage, I don't know if she talked or not.

Ok, I gotta get ready and get out, I'll be back in 4 or 5 hrs.