Think about it. Why would she be chatty when she is suppose to be away having fun with her BFF. This is how she's checking to see if you will go all melty-cheese man. Don't chit-chat while she's gone. Turn the phone off. You need space without her distraction, so you can think clearly. Every time she sends a photo or text, it messes with your emotions.

Today, will you just take in the information, without jumping into radical action? I stayed near my IPad all day yesterday, hoping to hear what was going on, so we could try to straighten out a few things before matters were made worse.

Can you recap exactly what you have told her, if anything, after she told she called the OM and that they would resume to a professional relationship?

When is she due back home?

To clarify, during the talk when you confronted her about the A, you said you expressed concerns about them working together. Was anything else said about the M? Anything said about her moving back into the MBR? Anything else you remember about the talk?

You did not give her an ultimatum, right? After you asked her to talk to your cousin/friend, was anything else said about the A or MR?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!