I'm staying in the friend zone... I can't really imagine having a stranger near me physically or emotionally for a long, long time. I think that until the D is final, I wouldn't even consider it an option.
I'm only focusing on myself - processing what's happening, working through my emotions, new job, hobbies, and spending time with my son before he finds himself a girlfriend (he fulfills a lot of my needs for company and emotional support - we enjoy many of the same interests, and also share a sense of humor, so we laugh a lot).
It probably helps that I'm nearing my mid-50's.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
I can't really imagine having a stranger near me physically or emotionally for a long, long time. I think that until the D is final, I wouldn't even consider it an option. 
