well, the wedding song brought her home yesterday... she came home after the baby shower. She said that she is committed to the marriage and wants to work as a team. she wants to go out together, dating. she has agreed to transparency - that is all that i asked from my side. She had good support where she was for the day, old faithful friends.
she was very clear about me not giving her ultimatums, which i have no doubt will see her fleeing again. She cried saying that its hard to not hear "i love you" back from me, and lack of intimacy. i said "i still have a broken heart and i am not sure when i can let you in again as you need to build trust". she said that shes willing to wait, as long as it takes.
it's pretty clear that she's still in the fog. going to be for quite a while. Do i lower my wall, make sure that i don't allow her to cake eat and still focus on amended goals? I still plan on being distant, detach, 180 and some GAL activities.
i should finish the DR book by the end of the week so that will help, but right now i need some vets help pls.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
