Ralph, My point was not that it is going to be hard to find dates. In fact just the opposite. Single moms have no trouble getting dates! They are actually targeted by some pretty sleazy guys. Guys will date them and then use the excuse that kid is involved to not commit. Even better is a woman recently divorced. Absolutely no committment expected then!
Now the topic of how long to wait to date?
I am not even divorced yet, so obviously not going to date any time soon. Hypnotherapist told me that I really should be in a positive place with myself in order to attract someone that will be a positive in my life. I think that makes sense. Also, I am fully aware of how vulnerable I am right now. I would probably be scrubbing floors, doing laundry and baking cookies To proove to someone I am in fact, worthy as a partner.
I do think that dating does help prevent some people that have cheating spouses, from pursuing and obsessing though.
I will be honest. the thought of waiting another year for a relationship is torturous, because what was just brought up as a primal need will be delayed another year! I am uncomfortable with the idea of casual sex. For me, the risk of stds would not be worth it and it would not even be enjoyable for me without trust. But at the same time, I do not want to be in an unhealthy relationship either. There is more at stake as I have a kid.
Zues, So if sex is a primal need like food and water how long can someone be expected to go without? Or is there a difference in the definition of sexual instinct vs the act of sex?
Is sex necessary for survival of the species? Yes. is it necessary for survival of an individual? No. Is sex primal? hopefully. Is it a requirement for a healthy relationship? Yes, but there are exceptions.
