LBS back--piecing--but still regret not DB

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Since it has come to my attention that so many of you are reading here, I feel I should keep the thread alive. So I often think about what I can tell you to be encouraging or supportive. That's been hard lately because some things have come up in my own M.

Blu you have been extremely encouraging and supportive to many on this forum. But please do not feel that you have to always give to us, as you deserve to receive as well. Share some of the hardships in your sitch and let others support and encourage you. You deserve it, and we want to provide it.

I have made some poor choices in the last couple years and haven't taken the best care of myself. H has been on to it and he is scared. It's completly understandable. I think this is in large part due to when I failed at DB and when I still fail at it during piecing. I do believe it is a way of life. When I say that I mean, self love, self respect, breaking codependency, and realizing OUR worth and value in any R.

This is the best advice anyone can give for the many situations of this forum. It is the key, and often times goes unrealized because we have become so conditioned to please others and when we are rejected, we take the blame. We could have just as easily rejected our partners for the shortcoming they demonstrated, but we chose not to, because we chose to love them, we did not simply go with our feelings and emotions. Those can come and go. Be gentle with yourself and know that you did not fail at Dbing and piecing. You have not failed unless you choose to give up trying.

So today is a new day. I can't just celebrate that H is here, and my family is back together, and everything is rainbow-farting unicorns. That's not life. Ever. But what I can do, is do the best I can TODAY. Be patient with myself and others. Be mindful when I speak. Allow myself to enjoy the moment and shove all that clutter in my brain to the side. Just for a little bit longer than last time. And most importantly, when I blow it, I'm going to take note, but forgive myself and keep moving forward. That's the only direction I can go.

Anyhow, that my plan for today. Maybe tomorrow too.

I am here for you all.
-Blu

Simply brilliant advice and thoughts. Thank you Blu for sharing and your insight. You truly are becoming the person only a fool would leave. You are getting closer to being the person that if the fool leaves, will be strong enough to carry on regardless for herself and her family.

May you have a peaceful day.