Ralph88, it has helped me to make my own list of things to work on. When I was trying to use the list that WAW was providing me it only created confusion and even some disillusion as to our past together. Ultimately that is not helpful. I think that sometimes in a MR we try to become or act like the person our partner wants us to be whether consciously or subconsciously. And this is not healthy nor beneficial to the MR.

IMHO focus on what you know in your heart you need to work on. Maybe even get some feedback from a trusted person that is not emotionally attached to you if that helps. But focus on what you know and become the best that you can be.

Let the past stay there. Be present in the moment, and take actions that can help shape the future that you would want to enjoy.

I am here to support you, you have had a difficult journey, but the journey can still be a good one.

Me 46 Former W 46
D19 D7
BD Feb 2016
WAW moves out 4/16/16
D final 6/1/2017

It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine