New Couple, Same Old Story 2

[Ralph88]

I was trying to think of somethings to work on that may have been some issues in my M. I was thinking of the 3 or 4 months before the BD and what my W may have been complaining about. I realize that she basically cut me down and complained about everything I did. There was no rhyme or reason at the time, but I think her WWness was building and she was basically telling herself that everything I did was things she didn't like. I remember trying to work on myself, but felt that I was chasing my tail at every turn. Huh.. I was even apologizing for things and trying to validate her then, but it didn't work, and I didn't understand why. Boy was a stupid guy.

Could the OM have been in the picture already as a fantasy or a reality?